Tips for good parenting

A couple in love and married happily often longs for a baby to complete the “family” picture. Well, it is then a matter of choice as to how big or small your family is going to be. But at least one baby, whose prattle will fill the house, is a delight for one and all.

Young mothers often panic at the thought of their newly acquired status, not knowing how to handle this new responsibility. As it may be, new fathers are in a similar state of mind. It is difficult enough to give birth to a child, but the journey that follows is a roller-coaster ride. Good parenting is a tricky art and you need to master it well so that your children grow up to be good, obedient and confident individuals.

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Here are a few tips that will help you deal with the situation in an organized manner. To begin with, babies are like a ball of clay. Their mind is not set in any particular thought process, so it is easy to mould them the way you deem suitable. How well you mould it and shape it will decide your baby’s future and its character. It will also determine your skills in parenting.

A baby is very vulnerable and scared of the outside world. It is the parent’s duty to give it protection and make it feel secure. How does one do this? Well, pretty simple. Just spend quality time with your baby to give it the assurance that you are around to shield it against any adversity. The best way to bond with the baby is to be close to it physically as well as emotionally.

A baby understands the soothing touch of its parents; it is comforted by the gentle words and feels secure in the warm embrace of mother/father. Hence, it is essential to keep talking to your baby, so that it feels your presence. This mode of communication not only binds the baby and the mother, but also becomes the foundation of its language skills in the future because the baby grows up listening and grasping the words spoken to it.

Second important thing is that in the initial formative years of the child, especially till the age 2-3 years or till the time it starts going to a playschool, it is essential that the parents spend maximum time with the child. This is because we are trying to prepare the baby to adjust in the outside world and thus it needs to be emotionally stable and secure to experience the new things that it will soon encounter.

I know it is easy said than done, particularly in the present scenario where people are career minded and the couple needs to work to run a comfortable household. So many parents leave their babies within a couple of months in a crèche or daycare centre, after the maternity leave gets over. No doubt that the baby is well cared for at these places, but it cannot get the same love and upbringing of its parents.

Same applies to the food habits and choices that are typical to a particular household. Home cooked food is best for baby’s good health and the mother can easily monitor the nutritional factor too. These are little things that matter a lot. Hence, in order to bring up a healthy baby who is emotionally secure and happy, do give your time to this precious bundle of joy.

Parenting- A Joyful Experience

When a man and a woman decide to start their life together as husband and wife, they are well aware that soon a family will follow. For most people, married life is not whole without a child that completes a “family”. However, after the baby is born the new parents are at their wits end, struggling to raise the child. Suddenly the joy of child birth gives way to anxiety and apprehension related to their baby’s upbringing.

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Relax! It is not as tough as it seems. If you want to be good parents, then some basic lessons in parenting will steer you through this dilemma. The secret of good parenting lies in the fact that parents are child’s best friends and companions. If this is kept in mind, then half the battle is won. To understand a child’s mind, be like one. This will help you analyze their whims and fancies.

Babies need a lot of attention from the parents, as they try to adjust to the outside world, having just left behind their secure space – mother’s womb. It is a good idea to let the baby have the same comfort and security, when you hold it close to you. This gives a sense of relief to the baby, knowing that it is in a comfort zone, with someone to take care. For a healthy growth of the baby, it is essential that it gets good sleep and rest. It is very easy for a baby to fall asleep.

Nevertheless, a warm bath, a good massage, dim lit room and a proper feed induces that much needed sleep automatically. So give your baby a warm bath that will soothe the baby and encourage it to sleep. Soft music playing in background or a lullaby also does the trick.  A gentle body massage helps to relax the baby’s muscles and limbs, which facilitates a good sleep.

Another important thing is feed the baby well before sleep. A well fed baby is a happy baby. Do not over feed the baby as it may cause discomfort or reflux. Once you are done with the feeding, hold the baby up and gently stroke its back till it burps. This will eliminate any air bubbles or colic. It is essential to burp the baby during the feed, as well as after the feed.

A good parent is not necessarily a strict parent or vice versa. Cater to your child’s needs and wants, but do not pamper them to a limit that may spoil them. Do not indulge too much and cultivate the good habit of eating wholesome, home-cooked, nutritional food. Healthy food leads to healthy body and mind. Monitor your child’s weight, height, etc in order to ascertain proper growth. A periodic visit to the pediatrician or community health nurse will erase all your doubts about the little one’s well being.

Be a friend to your child and not a task master. This will ease the barrier in the parent-child relationship and your angel will be ever willing to share his or her problems with you. It will give a platform for communication and you will have a better bonding with your baby. When you are out for work then make it a point to call the baby at intervals, at home or at play centre, to assure that you will return shortly to be with your darling. This will calm the baby and will give a sense of security that mummy dearest loves the angel.

These are basic steps to be a good and caring parent and you will have a happy and content baby to deal with.

How to enjoy parenthood and your life

Parenthood is often seen as an end to the freedom of both the partners, as they feel that this new duty of raising the baby will not give them quality time for themselves. However, parenthood is a joyful experience and if you have your priorities and life sorted out, then you very well can enjoy life as you used to, before the arrival of the baby.

Many young women feel that motherhood puts a full stop to their social life and now hence forth their life is going to revolve around the little one only. This is not true. A baby is a gift from God and should never be considered as a “burden” or “hindrance” in your freedom.

It is a bundle of joy that brings happiness and liveliness in your life. You just need to plan your day and routine well, and you will be amazed at how well one can balance parenthood as well as social life. In fact, you should be proud that you are getting the best of both worlds.

The real tact is making your life enjoyable once again is accepting the new role of being a parent graciously. Then start sorting your routine. Make a time table for your duties as a mother. I know that it is a never ending task, but you can chart out the feeding time and settle the baby in that particular manner. This way the baby’s sleeping and feeding routine gets set well and then you get the time that you so desire.

A well fed baby sleeps peacefully at least for 3-4 hours. You can utilize this time for completing your other household chores like cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. Once this is achieved in the first half of the day then you can relax and socialize at home during baby’s second sleeping stint. This is the right time to invite your friends over for high tea and some enjoyable gossip.

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If your friends have babies too, then it is good gathering of mothers and babies, where the babies have fun time in each other’s company and the mothers get some breather too. This not only teaches the child to socialize and learn to adjust in company, but also acts as platform for mothers to exchange notes on parenthood. We can learn a lot from other’s experiences and gives us tips to tackle a situation.

Many women are working and they take maternity leave to attend to the baby. However, this cannot go on endlessly and one has to resume work duty eventually. Please don’t feel guilty the first time you leave your little one at the daycare centre. Those teary eyes and beckoning expressions are sure to freeze you and you may just wish that you could rush back home with your angel.

Never have that guilty feeling, since you are making this sacrifice for the betterment of the family. Just make sure that you call the centre at regular intervals to ascertain that the baby is settled and happy. This will help to ease your mind. Be it workplace or a social outing, if your child is not with you, then frequent comforting words from the mother over the telephone will surely soothe the baby and give the feeling of your presence.

Arrival of a baby does not mean that your life is restricted to feeding and changing nappies. If you have a hobby, pursue it in your free time. When the baby sees you occupied in an artistic way, then it will automatically follow you and develop skills. Hobbies like painting, etc are best done in company of your baby, where the little one also gets a chance to dabble in colors and have fun. Just make sure that the baby does not end up eating paint.

So remember, parenthood is not necessarily a full stop for being “you”. It is a matter of tact and planning to make the most of life.